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Monday, February 6, 2012

I Want a New Drug

“Love is like a narcotic. At first it brings the euphoria of complete surrender. The next day, you want more. You’re not addicted yet, but you like the sensation, and you think you can still control things. You think about the person you love for two minutes, and forget them for three hours. But then you get used to that person, and you begin to be completely dependent on them. Now you think about him for three hours and forget him for two minutes. If he’s not there, you feel like an addict who can’t get a fix. And just as addicts steal and humiliate themselves to get what they need, you’re willing to do anything for love.”

― Paulo Coelho

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Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Questions for heterosexuals

A while back I ran across some very excellent questions crafted by Lindsey at *! [emphatic asterisk].
Seems like a good day to share these again.
These questions turn the tables on heterosexual friends, family, church members who so often expect homosexual individuals to explain their “lifestyle.”
Here are some of her questions: (read the entire post here)

How long have you known you’re heterosexual?

Why do you feel the need to behave in ways that reinforce negative heterosexual stereotypes?

Why do you allow your heterosexuality to affect so much of your life?

Must you really behave (or dress) in a way that flaunts your heterosexuality (or makes it so hard to ignore)?

How did the people in your life react when they realized you are attracted to the opposite sex?

Does the fact you’re a heterosexual make family events awkward?

Does your church know that you’re heterosexual?

Are you ever attracted to the same sex, maybe just a little?

Don’t you ever wonder if you might be mistaken about your sexuality?

Contrary to the evidently popular belief, it is possible to be gay and Christian, or gay and a good sibling, wife, mother, daughter -- or gay-friendly and a good citizen, etc.

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Monday, November 29, 2010

Why is this still an issue?

Can you honestly believe that LGBT Americans are actually still in this particular battle? For the same, basic, simple right to marry as anybody else?

This may be one of the best rebuttals to the “re-defining marriage” mantra, given by Keith Olbermann:

"I keep hearing this term 're-defining' marriage. If this country hadn’t re-defined marriage, black people still couldn’t marry white people. Sixteen states had laws on the books which made that illegal in 1967. 1967.
The parents of the President-Elect of the United States couldn’t have married in nearly one third of the states of the country their son grew up to lead. But it’s worse than that. If this country had not 're-defined' marriage, some black people still couldn’t marry black people. It is one of the most overlooked and cruelest parts of our sad story of slavery. Marriages were not legally recognized, if the people were slaves. Since slaves were property, they could not legally be husband and wife, or mother and child. Their marriage vows were different: not 'Until Death, Do You Part,' but 'Until Death or Distance, Do You Part.' Marriages among slaves were not legally recognized.

You know, just like marriages today in California are not legally recognized, if the people are gay.
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What is this, to you? Nobody is asking you to embrace their expression of love. But don’t you, as human beings, have to embrace… that love? The world is barren enough.
It is stacked against love, and against hope, and against those very few and precious emotions that enable us to go forward. Your marriage only stands a 50-50 chance of lasting, no matter how much you feel and how hard you work.
And here are people overjoyed at the prospect of just that chance, and that work, just for the hope of having that feeling. With so much hate in the world, with so much meaningless division, and people pitted against people for no good reason, this is what your religion tells you to do? With your experience of life and this world and all its sadnesses, this is what your conscience tells you to do?"